| “ I don’t
doubt that these men genuinely love their kids,” says Richard
McGuire, MSW, program coordinator for the Responsible Fathers Program. “But
their actions don’t reflect that. I tell them “if you
participate in negative behaviors, how much do you really love
your children? You make poor decisions,” says McGuire. “This
is painful. The ones who are willing to face it will stick with
it. Others will drop out.”
The Responsible Father's Initiative is turning men at Palladia
with a history in the criminal justice system into responsible
fathers. Richard currently leads two groups in East Harlem and
in the Bronx, providing Palladia's male clients with the insights
they need to turn their lives around and become better fathers.
It is a poignant and moving experience to hear men, most who have
served many years in prison and been driven by their drug addiction,
talk about how much it means to them to become a good father. Although
part of the Palladia experience is participating in group therapy
sessions, most of the men who have volunteered for the Responsible
Fathers Initiative so far say they have never experienced anything
like like this. In fact, many of them have wondered aloud why they
haven't been approached with treatment as fathers, and not just
individuals, before now.
By attending weekly group sessions, men in this program gain insight
into how much their behavior impacts their children. Since the
program is funded with TANF money and is mandated to deal with
child support issues, says McGuire, "Palladia’s approach
is that you can’t deal with the child support issue if you
don’t work on the other behavioral issues and pathologies
at the same time."
Joshua Castro, one of the program’s participants, had this
to say: "I am doing things I never did before with my two
daughters. It's a lot easier for me to spend time with them. I
am living a new life now. I always had a problem with responsibility.
I never had a father. Both of my parents were drug users. So I
have to learn with this group what it means to be responsible and
how to better myself and my relationship with my girls."
The Responsible Fathers Initiative helps clients deal with the
following crucial issues:
• Responsible parenting
•
Reunification
•
Preventing pregnancy out of wedlock
•
Forming a family
•
Dealing with women
•
Dealing with trauma
•
Self-nurturing skills
•
Fathering without fear of violence
This is a unique group experience for men who have been incarcerated
on drug-related charges, and who are serving parole in an alternative
to incarceration program at one of three of Palladia's residential
programs. After four years of success in East Harlem, McGuire’s
Responsible Father's Initiative has recently been implemented at
Starhill. |